If you’ve had a chance to read any of my previous posts about graduating college and life not going as I had planned or my journey into navigating the nuisances of adulthood, then you know that I have been on this path to getting myself back in line with where I feel like I should be. While it hasn’t been easy, I’ve began to realize how toxic stress can be and the negative impact it can have on my day to day life. Stress has made it hard to get out of bed in the morning. It’s made me feel like not going into work. It’s also had physical changes on my body that I had not ever expected.
I’m a dweller and I tend to be unable to let go of negative moments in my life. I let them replay again and again in my head until I can no longer bare it. That’s why as I’ve moved into these new chapters of my life, I’ve found it to be extremely difficult to not hold onto the setbacks that I’ve been experiencing. But, unlike in the past, I’ve recently been realizing just how important it is to take care of any of the toxicity in my life. I know it’s almost impossible to control what happens to me, but, I can control how I react and how I choose to move forward. As a result, I’ve compiled a few tips that have helped me.
- Identify What Exactly is Causing Your Stress – Keep in mind that not all stress is bad stress. Having some stress in your life can actually be a good thing or you, but when you find that it’s preventing you from going about your day, that’s when there’s a problem. It’s important to look at what exactly in your life is causing stress and the effect that it has on yourself. Make a list of those things. Knowing exactly what stress is serving as an obstacle in your life will help get you one step closer to knowing how exactly to manage it.
- Be Mindful of Your Environment – have you ever heard of the saying, “You are who you surround yourself with”? Well it’s true. Whether you believe it or not, you do feed off of the energy of the people you spend time with and the places where you spend your time. If you find yourself battling stress, try changing your environment. Start by looking around you and finding the things/people in your life that have become a “comfort zone” for you. Finding a new place to spend time or new people to spend time with can really make a difference in how you manage stress.
- Take Time to Do the Things You Love and Make Time to Try New Hobbies – stress can really inhibit you from wanting to put time into doing the things you enjoy, and that’s what makes it even more important to take time immersing yourself into the things that you love. If you’re feeling stressed out, think of any hobbies that you enjoy and schedule some time into your day for it. Setting a routine and trying new hobbies can help to minimize stress.
- Breathe – this may seem like the most simple tip on this list but I would say it’s one of the most important. Sometimes stress can make you feel as though it’s difficult to catch your breath; so try taking deep breaths for approximately 10 seconds. Within that time frame, take the opportunity to not think of the things that are stressing you. Focus on positive thoughts and repeat the breathing exercise as much as needed.
- Talk About What’s on Your Mind – the worst thing you can do when you’re battling stress is bottle in what you’re feeling. Find an outlet and talk about what’s on your mind. Look to your support system to find people that you feel comfortable talking with. But remember, releasing what’s on your mind doesn’t always have to be with a person. Writing, blogging, or any form of art/expression can be a great way to release stress and detoxify your life.
I hope these tips help anybody out there who may be currently dealing with any form of stress or toxicity in their life. Do you have any other tips that have helped you or those around you? Let me know in the comments below!