10 Things I’ve Learned (So Far) in My 20’s

Stuck in them 20 somethings, stuck in them 20 somethings.

Good luck on them 20 somethings, good luck on them 20 somethings.

But God bless these 20 somethings.

– SZA (20 Something)

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Nobody ever really tells you what your 20’s will be like. When you’re younger, all you truly envision is the freedom and independence you’ll have once you finally cross that threshold into adulthood. But, once you’ve finally reached that stage in life, you realize that your 20’s are so much more than that.

It’s about the ride on an emotional roller coaster as you navigate your way through love, loss, and finding yourself/truly accepting who you’re becoming. Filled with its highs and lows, being in your 20’s is not always easy, but it’s worth the journey. Even at the young age of 23, I’ve learned so much in my 20’s so far that I never really thought I would have.

  1. Just when you think you know who you are, you begin to discover even more – You know that saying, “You learn something new every day.” Well, it’s true. Self discovery is one of the most amazing things about being in your 20’s and even when you think you’ve learned all there is to know about who you are, you’ll find that you never actually know enough. As you continue to change, the more you have to get to know.
  2. Friendships are no longer based on the length of time, but on the quality – When I was younger I always used to think that my best friends were my childhood friends – the ones had been in my life the longest. But now that I’m older, I realized just how much better some of my friendships have been with people who haven’t been in my life that long. People always scream quality over quantity, yet you never really realize how true that is until actually applies to your life.
  3. Travel as much as you can – See the world and let the world see you. Whether it’s a trip to a neighboring city for a weekend or an exotic destination out of the country for a week, take the trip. There’s so much out there in the world to do and see that you have yet to experience. So no more excuses, pack your bags and make the trip while you can!
  4. Take care of your mental health – If you need to call off from work or take a day away from those around you, do it. Don’t hesitate to put you and your mental health first. Also, don’t be afraid to talk to those around you about how you’re feeling. If there’s one major lesson to have been learned in my 20’s, it’s about how important mental health is. Yoga, healthy eating and putting time into my favorite hobbies are just a few things I’ve found to be essential in helping me take care of my mental health. Take the time to find out what’s best for you and remember that your mental health matters.
  5. Say goodbye to your metabolism and hello to lots of water and exercise – I thrived on fast food and to-go orders in high school and even a little bit of college. However, now if I eat a french fry it feels as though I gained 10 pounds. As you get older, the harder it is to maintain that fast metabolism you may have once had. So, remember to drink tons of water (at least a gallon a day) and make time to work out regularly each week (make sure to include some cardio routines!).
  6. Trust the process – There will be plenty of times where you feel like there’s no point or purpose to the things you’re going through. I can’t begin to explain how many times I’ve found myself asking, “Why me?” But, trust the process. Things may not seem like it now, but they will get better.
  7. Follow your dreams and your heart – If you want to be an actor, a writer, a singer, or a dancer, chase your dreams! You truly only get one opportunity to live your current life, make the most of it.
  8. Save, save, save and then save some more – save every $5 bill you receive, instantly set up for $20-$50 to be taken out of every paycheck and then deposited into a savings account or keep a jar to put all of your spare change. No matter what it is, make the effort to save. If it helps, set a goal. Save for a car, a new home, or even a trip. But whatever you do, make sure to take the time to save all that you can.
  9. There’s a lesson to be learned in every moment – As you continue to grow in your 20’s, you may find yourself making mistakes along the way. And as you go through life, you’ll find that every experience has a lesson hidden within it. So don’t fear your mistakes, embrace the opportunity to learn from it and even have the chance to pass that lesson on to someone else.
  10. It’s all about the little things – It’s not always about the big picture, but the little things that make it up. In your 20’s, you really learn to appreciate all of the small moments that life has to offer and you even begin to learn the little things you can do for others. The impact they have is like no other.

What are some lessons you’ve learned in your 20’s? Or is there anything you would have done differently looking back? Let me know in the comments below!

Moving on Up…and Out

So it’s been a year since I moved back home after graduating college and I’m finally moving out! And not only just moving out, but getting an apartment and moving in with my boyfriend. It’s a huge, yet exciting new chapter of my life and I’m excited to see what’s in store.

If I could describe the past year of my life in 3 words I would choose: unpredictable, strenuous and worthwhile. From struggling to find a job within my degree after graduating college to being diagnosed with a rare eye condition, I’ve had a lot of moments where I’ve questioned whether or not I had it in me to continue on. But, as of lately, I’m finally starting to see things come full circle. Just a week ago I received news that not only did I get accepted for a new job, but it also came with an amazing pay increase! And with my boyfriend and I in a wonderful space with each other, this new move is literally coming right on time.

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Lemons & Lemonade

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.

– Helen Keller

We’ve all heard the phrase, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade” at some point in our lifetime. But, what always baffles me is that there’s no recipe for this lemonade. I mean for most, lemonade is more than just water and sliced lemons. It also can consist of sugar (and sugar alternatives), simple syrups, and other sliced fruits. Yet, even once we’ve gotten the ingredients down, how do we know the right ratios. Too much sugar and it’s too sweet. Too little sugar and now you’re left with an unsatisfying, bitter drink. My point being, when life gives you lemons (obstacles), how are we supposed to know the recipe for the perfect lemonade (success). We’ve all had bad lemonade before right? So why would we want that wrong mix in our life.

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Moving On, Letting Go: Removing the Stress Out of My Life

If you’ve had a chance to read any of my previous posts about graduating college and life not going as I had planned or my journey into navigating the nuisances of adulthood, then you know that I have been on this path to getting myself back in line with where I feel like I should be. While it hasn’t been easy, I’ve began to realize how toxic stress can be and the negative impact it can have on my day to day life. Stress has made it hard to get out of bed in the morning. It’s made me feel like not going into work. It’s also had physical changes on my body that I had not ever expected.

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“Adulting”: Growing Up is Never Easy

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.

– E.E. Cummings

Just the other day I was going through old journals I had when I was a kid. Feeling the nostalgia of my old memories, I lay on the floor reminiscing of being that young again, dreaming of what my days would be like as I got older. But now at 22, I’ve realized that no amount of high school classes, college courses, summer jobs or hours spent watching TV shows that revolved around adulthood has truly prepared me for “adulting”. For those that don’t know, “adulting” refers to coming into the age of adulthood where one now has to behave and assume the responsibilities of the average adult.

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8 Things I wish I Knew While I Was in College

Are you a current college student or high school graduate headed off to college? Check out my 8 tips to help you successfully and easily manage your journey through school.

Whether you’re a high school graduate making the transition to a new collegiate lifestyle or a current college student adjusting to a new chapter of your life, college can be confusing and in some cases, challenging when you don’t know what to expect or how to navigate all of the new experiences being thrown your way. Now having graduated, I often look back and wonder what tips and advice I would have loved to know while I was still in school. Below, I compiled some of the best advice from my experience that can make your time spent in college go easily and smoothly:

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Life After Graduation: Everything Didn’t Go As Planned and That’s Okay

Never give up. Today is hard, tomorrow will be worse, but the day after tomorrow will be sunshine.
– Jack Ma

I remember stepping onto campus my freshman year of college. It felt as though the world was at my feet, begging me to jump in. Even when the long sleepless nights, late night study snack binges and hours spent juggling a social life, part time job, full academic load, and unpaid internship began to set in, it was the excitement of what was to come after graduation that kept me going. So when I did graduate 3 years later, I was ready to jump into adulthood. Degree in hand, it was time to apply for those career level positions I had been eyeing while I was in school. But to my surprise, after sending in countless applications, I received no interview and in most cases not even an email confirming a rejection. To say the least, I was crushed. Heartbroken may even be a better word.  Continue reading “Life After Graduation: Everything Didn’t Go As Planned and That’s Okay”